About Nanci Burt
As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in North and South Carolina (depending on your state’s requirements I may be able to provide services to you if you live outside of NC/SC), I have specialized in working with clients who have a narcissistic or borderline spouse, partner, or parent.
Relationships such as these require you to subjugate and self-sacrifice your needs in order to fulfill theirs. You may be feeling the following:
- You find yourself giving, giving, and giving however nothing you do is enough.
- You take on a lot of shame
- You cover up the partner’s/parent’s behavior by minimizing what they do even when people point things out to you
- You find yourself emotionally exhausted
- You feel crazy and they tell you that you are even when you have proof of the contrary
- They take responsibility for the good things you do
- They belittle you and sometimes it can be very subtle you don’t even know it
- You find little pieces of damaging information and when you say something, they excuse it away
- You work really hard to teach morality and to do the “right” thing
- You have low self-worth
- You witness his/her emotional outbursts (moodiness)
- They sometimes don’t make sense when in explanation mode
- You have an eerie sense that lying is taking place
- When you confront them, they turn the situation around to you
- Criticizing, belittling, and defeating you keeps you in ‘your place’
- Make everything about them
- Take advantage of others and feel they deserve or have rights and priveledges more than others
- Control and isolation from others that could possibly provide emotional support
- Arguments become confusing and make little logical sense
- Oh and so much more…..
Personality disorders are quite complicated and confusing to you as you try to navigate your relationship. You cannot do this ALONE. Recovery is possible and very much needed. The effects and toll it takes on your body, mind, and spirit, not to mention children who are involved, can be sickening.
All of us have a need for support and counseling at some point in our lives. There’s nothing shameful about asking for help. Early on in life, our lives are etched and sculpted. It’s important to learn new ways of identifying strategies for your life. You want to feel better; want to have better working relationships with your family, friends, and colleagues. Sometimes all we need is just an outside source to talk to. One of my favorite quotes is from Maya Angelou, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
I work with a wide variety of problems such as difficulty with communication, anxiety, depression, adjustment disorders, poor coping skills, marital issues/divorce, parenting problems to name just a few. I assist those who are dealing with narcissistic abuse. It’s important to incorporate wellness to support change.
Safety and trust are imperative in therapy! Therapy can assist with managing solutions in order to live your best life. You will find a supportive, yet therapeutic environment in which you can grow and achieve the life you desire.
I look forward to meeting and working with you, Nanci